Have you noticed the relationships you have share certain similarities? At the end of a relationship, have you said “I’m never going through that again”. Consciously or not, we often have a pattern of picking the same type of person as a partner. As much as we want to learn from our previous relationships, it is very easy to fall back into that similar pattern and we start to believe that this is the way things are supposed to be, even if they don’t work out.
Breaking bad dating patterns can often be the key to finding a healthy relationship with the right person. The first hurdle is probably realising that the habit has developed in the first place and what the patterns are. It could be the type of person you are initially attracted to, they could be needy, unreliable, selfish or aggressive, and yet although it may be subconsciously, some of us continue to be attracted to this type of person. Try and break your dating/relationship pattern by dating someone you may not see as initially attractive and you may be surprised to find qualities in this person that you didn’t expect and work better with your personality. Another cause of bad relationship patterns is having expectations that are too high. Don’t expect a fairy tale, this can only lead to a feeling of disappointment in the end. Having realistic expectations enables a relationship to progress and grow and allows for some compromises, which will help build a strong and long lasting partnership.